Bisexual Girls Club

Why is it that bar fights are ok, drunk frat boys harassing anyone with a skirt (or tight jeans or anything short of a potato sack really), a man and a woman canoodling – these are all NO BIG DEAL? Oh, yeah, they see that sort of thing all the time. It’s totally normal. But two women having a public display of affection and some establishments are shocked. Don’t even think about talking about your lifestyle here!

No, these are not my kind of establishments, but sometimes the only way to find out which places to avoid is by going there and having to get that chilly reception from the female DJ who gives you dagger eyes because you’re having fun with another woman. Wait, aren’t women supposed to compete with each other and be all catty all the time? It’s supposed to be a jungle out there for all single people and there are some very competitive beasts mixed in too so when you throw them a curve ball, they are NOT HAPPY.

There’s such a big deal in society about finding your “soul mate” and when you’ve found them all about getting the girl diamonds to show how strong your love is. You hear so much about romantic getaways and being paired for life – how sweet a story is that. All those “chick-flicks” geared as tear-jerkers to remind us all that the only way to be completely happy is to find the love of your life.

Yet, when you go out in public, there is another story. All the single folks seem to be hating on the couples. Couples have to pay a cover for certain parties, while single women are allowed in for free. Wait, I’m being punished because I am with someone I love? And then the single people are invading the couples parties. Couples go somewhere to meet like minded people (other couples, single people whomever) yet they get shunned by single people who go there to pick up other single people. Try to talk to that single person and be friendly and share your thoughts about what’s fun? Get a response, “No I’m here with that person,” meaning they just met that night. Oh, so now couples are a problem in society? Which is it? Couple up? or Stay Single so you can get all the prizes in life? Poor you, you’re single so we’ll throw you a bone. No better yet, we’ll take all the bones away from the couples. They’ve found each other. They don’t need anything else. Seriously, I feel like sometimes in New York, you can get the chilliest reception if you’re part of a couple. Forget about them understanding your lifestyle.

Yeah, because too many places are really just feeding grounds for single people so they can pair up and then when they’re ready to hang out they can go find other couples. Couples and single people? That’s just not normal. Two women and a man. That’s just not normal. Sir why is your girl kissing another girl? No, that’s unacceptable. A man and a woman canoodling in a booth? Well, even though that’s a coupling they’re still okay because maybe they just met and heck you gotta let those single people get things started.

Hey, I don’t know how else to say this so if it sounds like I’m bitter about single people, well I’m not really. I’m just saying that for all the talk about finding “the one” how come when I go out there it’s really just a lot more convenient and cost effective if you’re a single person trying to get into a party or whatever. You’d think you’d save money as a couple but not the case. I want to say that it’s just the singles pick up places that are like that, but even couples parties can be like that.

And you have to be the right kind of couple talking about the right kinds of things. On a date with a woman the other night, she mentioned that she does what she wants and her husband doesn’t dictate. Okay, she is independent, fine. But she added that she goes out on dates with women without her husband having a say about it. She went on to say that he doesn’t even know about it. Was I supposed to be impressed? Don’t you communicate? Why are you together if it’s all just to do things you feel like regardless. Independence is important and being able to make your own decisions is a good quality to have, but why is it better to be secretive than to just have it all out in the open. I think some people don’t get that you can retain your own identity while still being thoughtful of the other person in your life. Don’t they deserve your honesty? So it’s okay to talk about cheating on your significant other (girl, don’t try to paint it all rosey and usurp the female code – oh, I’m just keeping my freedom – to justify your cheating ways), but not okay to talk about having an open relationship? That’s just way out there. Honesty? Openness? Why would you want to share so much? Are you crazy? And then those same people wonder why they’re single or why they’re struggling as a couple, or one day one of them will be amazed and say, “but I thought we were happy.” I’m not saying an open relationship is for everyone, but lying to each other and being all secretive all the time is not the answer either.

What’s normal? Two drunk people having a heated argument; A frat boy smacking a woman on the ass cause her pants are so tight he couldn’t help himself… oh he’s a little drunk anyway or boys will be boys; A man and a woman in a booth sucking face. That person over there talking about how the significant other doesn’t have to know what is going on here tonight. Those are all normal scenes and the bartenders and the DJ’s can do the job they’re used to doing.

So, forget about two women all over each other. Not everyone can handle that. Bring in a couple of women and have them make out. “Oh my god, we don’t do that sort of thing around here. Look, just tone it down please. This is a respectable establishment.”

Take it a step further and reveal that one of those women is part of a couple and try to talk about a lifestyle? “Oh, man you just have to stop. This is not that kind of a place. Take it outside please.” When we’re really not doing much more than that man and woman canoodling. When we’re really not saying something so bad. It’s just not normal. As a couple, there seems to be so many more “restrictions” placed on us. This all makes it so hard to live the lifestyle. Who wants to be made to feel ashamed for being who you are?? And two women canoodling, we really have to watch where we’re stepping. We might be competing with the straight DJ for attention and she won’t like that at all. No, you don’t want her dagger eyes.