Bisexual Girls Club

I don’t know why I keep trying the personals sites when I often get frustrating results. I guess it’s because sometimes I do get some pretty decent responses and meet some cool chicks. The potential is still there, I suppose, at least for the most part. Admittedly though, it’s a lot more aggravating than it used to be.

Sometimes I suspect I’m corresponding with a person who is not actually interested in meeting. Sometimes I suspect I’m really corresponding with a man (yeah, I know some of you have had that feeling too) pretending to be a woman. Although, fortunately it’s not actually often enough to discourage me from the whole thing altogether, it’s disappointing to go through an exchange that turns out to just someone collecting pictures (then again women can certainly be just as guilty of that too). This is exactly why I say please save the x-rated shots for until after we meet. And I really hate getting those kinds of pics when I don’t ask for it.

Regardless, I was willing to give this bikini-clad girl a chance. This is what I get for having a little too much faith… I usually don’t bother if they send a racy picture first. In those cases I have rarely (if at all) been wrong about my assumption that they are somehow not for real. It has often turned out that they are not actually a woman or it’s a woman who inevitably flakes and can never really make a plan to meet up. Maybe she just wants someone to see all her “sexy” pictures and boost her confidence. Or maybe she or he wants to add more pictures to their own collection. Oh, please give me more pictures they say… no, they are not looking to meet real people. And if they are and they don’t get it, then well, I’d rather not bother to tell them they come out like assholes to me.

I try to stop corresponding, but sometimes I feel like I need to give them a piece of my mind. That is probably a bad call since it must just boost up their confidence some more because it mattered to me that much. Yet I do it on the chance that I might inspire some remorse in them. Do I think I’m a better person for it? No. Not at all… Still it offers a tiny bit of relief. Maybe it’s all such a pointless game really. Here I am trying to confirm my suspicions that the person was as “fake” as I thought they were to begin with. Maybe it’s a setup and I’m just traveling down a nonsense path of cyber-rage. I know. I try to ignore these people. I really do.

So I get this picture from this girl “Jaydee”.

And I respond in kind with a picture of mine (not X-rated) and say, “Hey, Here I am. Let me know if you’re interested in meeting up.

And Jaydee responds: NICE PIX !! Do you have a nude shot ??

So I simply write back to Jaydee: Block!

And posting here was all I could do to keep myself from cursing out that Jaydee. Man that really boils my blood.

I almost wanted to post the email address and picture too. I wondered: Is this a woman who has no fucking manners? Is it a man AND his girl’s picture and both of them have no manners? But then I considered:Is it someone posting some random woman’s picture and she’s just an innocent bystander? Regardless, I don’t want to waste an afternoon exchanging pictures with someone I’ve never met. The whole point of my efforts is to meet a person face to face.

If a person is really interested, they won’t just keep asking for more pictures. That’s just a waste of time, I don’t care how eagerly my friends suggest “Respond to those naked picture emails. What’s the worst that could happen?” It’s just aggravating as all hell. I can’t even really trust people who initially respond with a naked picture and want me to do the same. It’s not even about them wanting to send my picture all over the internet. I mean, I’m already sending it around and I have posted it here. I’m not naive to think other people besides the intended recipient won’t see it. If anything I should be worried about the x-rated polaroids my ex never gave back. But, like I really care about that either. I put myself out there and I’ve made my choice so I deal with any consequences. I try not to do things that will come back and bite me in the ass by at least taking responsibility for my own decisions. But anyone who asks for constant picture exchange before they can agree to meet is ultimately taking you on a road to nowhere and keep you on cyber world like a son of a bitch.

Look, I’m not saying my pictures are precious. Lots of girls say they don’t feel comfortable sending pictures over the internet – okay, I’ll give you that you would be more cautious with your x-rated pictures of course, but this comes up when talking about non-xrated pictures. Are they seriously afraid everyone will find out their picture somehow made it to the internet and all their secrets will be revealed?? I think that’s silly. It’s not like there so much security on the internet so long as you don’t send a picture. I don’t care about pictures of me floating around. What if someone took a picture of you without you knowing and shared that with all the perverts they know? You just can’t really control where your image goes. The best you can do is control where you place yourself (not your image). I’m not trying to pretend there are no safety issues on the internet either (I actually had an email stalker once, which made me rethink my whole dating approach). I’m just saying that in terms of dating, there’s so much more to worry about outside of the internet.

The only way to know for sure if things could work out with someone is to meet in person, and even then you still can’t be sure what crazy person you’re dealing with. It’s just that I’d much rather interact with real live people than with images on my computer and you have one extreme who refuses to send out their picture (as if that’s really the best way to protect themselves) and another extreme who would rather collect images of other “potential” daters than meet real people. I hate to get sucked into that.